I grew up with an ambitious drive for perfection and the effect was a high-functioning inner critic; from my body to relationships and on. Like most things, it would go through ebbs and flows and like most people, no one knew when it was washing over me.
Eventually I reached a point where I was no longer able to contain it, I felt unable to live in joy. It was then that I consciously chose to face my fears and began my search for a path to wellbeing from the inside-out. This search led me to meditation, books, workshops and writing some of my own cheesy poetry.
I had read and resonated with many of Byron Katie's books by the time I found myself in Spain, as an au pair, in 2009. I was at a loss of how to deal with the anger and disappointment I had toward the family I was working with and was finally motivated to try out 'The Work' on a consistent basis. It left me in awe.
Through writing down my judgments of the family and honestly examining them, I experienced insights, understanding and compassion. My perspective of who they were shifted and it, quite literally, shifted everything. It was the first time I experienced an effective way to meet and engage with my painful thoughts and emotions.
Since then, I have applied this meditative process in the challenging aspects of my life, in particular on anxiety, body-image, negative self-talk and romantic relationships. I am deeply grateful for the effect this ongoing practice continues to have on my life.
I have worked with people on a wide variety of challenges ranging in severity - anywhere from everyday annoyances, to losing a loved one, heartbreak and PTSD. There is nothing that these questions can't support if the mind is open.
Featured in the press: • Hairprint's Women is Wellness Blog here The Work on self-stigma: • Journal article on self-stigma and HIV in Zimbabwe here • 2015 panel presentation at the ITW Convention in Los Angeles on Self-Stigma and HIV here • Featured in the Byron Katie Blog here • Read posts written in 2013 on sharing The Work in Zimbabwe here
For more: • A mindfulness blog for the single ladies (or anyone really)here